husband wants to spend every weekend with his family

Also, it depends on the relationships within the family. Do you both work very long hours or something that he cant muster up enthusiasm to do fun things with you? Or is that the LWs perception because she wants to be home? allathian Do you guys never visit/spend time with them? The oldest brother, who worked in Belgium a few hours away (and had a nice apartment there) would always, always take the train home as soon as work finished on Friday. Well. its a really exciting time for your relationship! It may not be romantic, but its incredibly smart to make sure you have all of your bases covered before taking that kind of step. Its time for him to grow up. You arent happy and yet you stay. lets_be_honest Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. A lot to balancenot a lot of time spent with the fam. January 20, 2012, 9:53 am. He will want to know why and you will answer that you have explained before that you dont want to spend every weekend with his parents. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four years now and have discussed marriage in the near future. He was this way through their entire dating, engagement, and now marriage. Another weekend and the same situation again; its like youre living in Groundhog day. Say, what if I only come to your parents one weekend a month, and you only go 2-3? That way you get some weekend time alone with him and you only go over there once a month. If I ask him if we can just stay home for the weekend, he will agree but then he will also make me feel like the bad guy for it, and he doesnt understand why its a big deal to go there instead of sitting at home. . January 20, 2012, 10:51 am, lets_be_honest Yet another letter from a LW who has the perfect boyfriend EXCEPT for one small, oh, you know, majorly epic, MASSIVE tiny thing she wants changed. But I dont automatically think that they have some huge communication problem because of this one issue. how do we divide furniture? And sorry about the relationship ramble aboveits Friday, what can I say? I know its tough when your fellow is away during the week and you want to see him too but if it stresses you out, take yourself out of the situation. That would be great if your husband didnt spend every weekend with his family instead of you. When I lived in Paris my host siblings were like that. The only respite I got was working on Sundays occasionally. Or maybe the LW would be more willing to let her boyfriend spend time with his parents on his own during the weekend, if she could spend weekday nights with him. Tell him that you feel neglected and that it hurts that you never spend weekends together. If you only have two free days per week, its rather selfish to take up one of those days every week with a visit to his parents, eliminating a lot of other possibilities. . Hed schedule one weekend a year when his best friends came to his town to party. I frankly doubt that this relationship has a future. You know what will happen when you make him choose between spending every single weekend in the suburbs with his parents or three weekends a month in the city with you? So why are you still with him? I am curious of yalls ages though. I come from a pretty tight knit family, and yea, when i was a kid i remember everyone coming over to mom and dads for Sunday lunch. Husband says we will spend Christmasses together when we have our own family. When family is in town, we spend almost every waking minute visiting. As a PP said, some extended families are close and spend a whole lot of time together, and girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, get pulled right into the family circle. Its entirely possible that the boyfriend is happy with the status quo, and if spending more time with his girlfriend means spending less time with his parents, hell choose the parents over the girlfriend. Maybe you can offer to make dinner or get tickets to a play or museum show. Whether you need help around the house, want to go on a romantic weekend getaway together, or just want to cuddle while watching movies, youre entitled to it. Isnt that the point of waiting to move in with someone? Which is totally fine for you. I lived in his hometown and so did his parents. Because when you are confronted with a situation head on, and theres pressure to resolve it right this second, the reaction is usually different then if you had a chance to talk it through and come to a mutually satisfying solution. TaraMonster Or I used to. Dont you like spending time with us. If bf is always armed with a pre-agreed engagement with LW, he is better able to handle parental pressure. He values his family and wants to spend his free time with them (and you). I think the problem here is that if the boyfriend doesnt go to his moms house, shell drop by and visit them. Id never visit my parents alone while he was in town, but sometimes wed go there for coffee and a meal. Yes, this. Firstly, it will be different for every couple, and secondly, some things you will never find out no matter how long you are dating until you move in together and go to sleep and wake up with each other every single day.. DO NOT just wait every weekend with huffy baited breath to see what he will choose, voice what you want. ele4phant Im nearly at my wits end because its causing me to get upset with him over fairly trivial things. Most people dont want to know about the SO cheating, not because of the cheating, but the outcome of the cheating. If you split everything while dating, I dont think it is wrong to assume that you will continue doing so once you move in together. Even if it isnt a matter of cutting apron strings or anything, some people just enjoy spending more time with their families than others. I support this and even though it isnt practical for me to take the baby all the way to the other side of the city every time he goes (an hour and a half subway commute round-trip), I have no problem spending an evening by myself with Jackson so Drew can get in some time with his dad. Also, the ex use to work on a project, like something with his old truck or building something, or whatever, and I would sit outside by him and read, which is something I enjoyed doing. After marriage, EVERY SINGLE SUNDAY was spent at his folks house. It is some throughout that entire period-IDK what that means but to me probably 1-2 weekends a month which isnt really that many. But Ill tell you what. So its not like every.single.weekend. bittergaymark So dont wait around for that. Anonymousse Tests are incredibly unfair to your partner, because they deserve a chance to hear what you really want and you deserve a chance to hear what they want. Copyright 2023 Dear Wendy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with her wanting him to spend more time with her. As your history with him has shown, he likes spending I am pretty sure that is not what you meant by your letter, but as we all know, when we are discussing something with significant others, things can sound more severe than they are. If its something that you just cant some to terms with, than it may just be an incompatibility that you two cant overcome. after the fact she admitted there were things wrong with the relationship but she was so in love with him and couldnt imagine that he was really doing that to her. ForeverYoung He has a scenario in his head of how they feel hurt, and thats why he has to see them every weekend. definitely not enough information here. See, thats whats weird, I have never been told im a direct person. On the weekends he spends at Did you guys actually read this letter? Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to go to his parents house every weekend? It doesnt mean he loves her any less. I agree something seems off here, because they have lived together ALMOST THREE weeks, and go to his parents house NEARLY every weekend, but only since they have lived together. I would not enjoy feeling like I couldnt just be at home some weekends. GatorGirl June 18, 2014, 11:41 am. Im not saying its come to that yet, but Im suggesting the LW force her bf to choose if he wont honor her wish to stay home once in a while. According to relationship expert and dating coach James Preece, Neglecting your family and friends Thats what next times are for! Often in relationships, we wonder if we are overthinking things and imagining a problem where there isnt one. I would probably always choose vegging at my parents house over mine, or even my boyfriends. 5. right! Some people rather deal with never knowing they cheated and live in the sand and keep up with the good life, then know about it and have to start over fresh. IF you are going to live together you have to learn to communicate and let him know when things bother you. Its super weird that hed rather bunk at mom and dads than yours. Im curious to know where the boyfriend lived before he moved in with the LW. Relationship time without your family is really important to me and I hope we can work in implementing a date day/night where it is just us.; your other option if he still doesnt agree to this or guilts you, is ending the relationship, because this is not going to change. And after 4 months, youre likely just coming out of the Honeymoon Phase. You havent had sufficient time to learn these little things youre just starting to learn. My husband and I are very much like you all except reversed. It certainly wasnt for me or any of my friends when they took the next step. Which wouldnt have happened before since she maybe didnt realize how much he wanted to/did see his family. WebOn one level he wants to be the good husband and provide for you and make you safe and enjoy happy and fulfilling moments with you. If he came back home, he would insist that we spend the whole weekend out in the rural area hanging out with his parents. In short, you havent had time to even get to the point where your differences might start to come to lightand then become dealbreakers. I asked him all the time if 1. we could have weekends where we spent more time just with each other and 2. maybe even have one every once in awhile where he didnt see his parents, that was just us my argument being that I never got a weekend to relax at home and have him come to mei was always either driving to him or driving an hour out to his parents for the weekend and spending the night and all that. Then offer a compromise. And if we dont decide to go there a weekend hes home, his mom will ALWAYS think of an excuse to drop by for hours at a time. AKchic Youve been together four months. 11. Let your boyfriend stay at his parents longer and do something else in the meantime. Listen and dont judge when he tells you why he likes going to his parents and respect his opinion on that. One of my good friends goes to see her in-laws (or the come see her) every weekend, and they live about an hour away. January 20, 2012, 10:53 am. January 20, 2012, 12:15 pm. I would say I prefer half my weekends to either be spent relaxing at home or sitting on a beach. Then you may just be spending too much time together. I miss just being able to head out into the city at random, looking for things to do, which is what I did when I was single and even when my boyfriend and I werent living together. Maybe thats what really got me thinking. Im super indepedent though, and I coudlnt imagine spending all of my free time with one person. ReginaRey She is communicating to us, that even though she is coming up short on the finance side, if her live in boyfriend eased off the time with the family visiting, she wouuld be ok. ForeverYoung Easily worked out and if not, then you probably have bigger issues than the garbage. After knowing and hearing most peoples story, it all comes down to men choosing their family over their partner. Youve already talked to your boyfriend about your feelings and he doesnt think hes doing anything weird. The thing is, whether or not his behavior is weird is irrelevant. muchachaenlaventana My point is that the important stuff should be agreed upon or found out with as much subtlety as possible before you even think of moving in together. LW, how about writing back with the details? ReginaRey LW, what everyone else said. I love girls night out. You know I was in a similar situation once, my ex and his parents like to see each other a lot more than I liked to see them. It is not wrong to Want to spend time with loved ones, but as an adult you ought to be fair and accommodating of your partner and potential kids. Any partner of mine will likely have to be the same for us to get along. You are not jointly responsible for bills you used to handle separately. Those things how they want to spend their weekends, their philosophies about money are the kind of things you should know about someone BEFORE making the huge commitment of moving in together. I know when my husband and I finally started living together, we would see both our parents every weekend along with going to the laundry mat and grocery shopping. Cue unintelligble grumbling. A picnic in the park? In perhaps nicer phrasingyes. also, go on Pinterest and put in cheap date ideas. Although that is a great idea, unfortunately, those plans arent going to work for me as my boyfriend likes to tag along his parents whenever he goes on trips. Saturday night is date night you are willing to sacrifice one date night a month to see his parents but thats it. But seriously, moving in with a guy after dating him for three months? You cant expect your husband to not want to see his family, and you shouldnt. So if you feel your husband growing distant, and you realize he hasnt said I love you in a long time, it could be because hes wrestling with feeling like he doesnt want you around. In other words, its a big sign he doesnt want to spend time with you. Heres a look at the 5 big stages successful relationships have to go through. Make sure that you are sensitive to your husband and your in-laws. January 20, 2012, 11:45 am. lemongrass Bring it up and communicate your feelings and desires. GatorGirl I agree with you. i really disliked him. You can even switch off on who decides on what you two do in the city. so you dont promote communicating with your partner about money or anything else before moving in? WebTherefore, his wife IS attending family functions on the weekends. if you dont want there to be issues. Wow its creepy how similar this is to my ex boyfriend! You dont want to talk about important issues with a SO so that you can pretend moving in together is a great idea because you dont know any better because you have SPECIFICALLY chosen not to know about better? Laura Hope ReginaRey Also it seems from the way you have described things that you all value family time in different ways. your husband wants to visit his family without you, doesnt want to spend Christmas with your family, You and your husband wanting to live in different places. Just tell him you are unhappy with your current social life. Maybe this difference will be easily resolved, and youll be together forever! That scenario is even more likely if your husband is apeople pleaserand doesnt know how to say no. Fast-forward almost 30 years: I become friends with several ppl who all are super tight with their moms. Its different than what youre used to, sure, and its maybe not something you would do yourself. Do you ever say hey, I dont want to go, so Im going to stay home this time around, or do you keep your mouth shut with a smile firmly planted on it, rictus and all? January 20, 2012, 10:57 am. Your boyfriend is spending every weekend at his parents house because you are enabling that to happen. That would be great if your husband didnt spend every weekend with his family instead of you. He works a road construction job that requires him to be gone every week during the summer/fall months, coming home only some weekends. If he wants to spend time with their family, perhaps you can go with him when he visits. At the same time, I know Ive put off talking about finances WAY longer than three weeks before (yeah, yeah, I know, bad), so that doesnt seem like a huge problem to me either. Ann Cannon. But are they really guilting the boyfriend? What about visiting your parents? Does that make sense? In my experience, though, it seldom works. But, I also wouldnt feel bad saying its been a long week I really want to binge watch Netflix and catch up on laundry today. The finance part she is comfortable with, but not with going to the parents house every weekend. 15 signs he doesnt want to spend time with you 1) Hes always busy Granted, most people are busy these days. My boyfriend goes to his mom and dads every weekend doesnt think me or my children with him he used to text me all the time and call me he doesnt do that anymore weve been together 3 years and there any place he ever takes me is to the grocery store and back home and he doesnt even hardly touch or kiss or anything anymore I tell him I love him all the time hell tell me back but I feel that he just tells me because he doesnt want it to hurt me. January 20, 2012, 7:40 pm. Sometimes I think that theres something that happens around the 3-6 month mark in most relationships. We live down the street from my boyfriends parents and hes always at there house on his days off. you can let things happen naturally to a certain point but after that there are times you have to have a conversation, unless you want there to be misunderstandings or assumptions made. It seems like this is something that would be pretty easy to compromise on. January 20, 2012, 9:13 am. So in defense of people like me, I think sometimes people think they are just showing you they love you and want to spend time with you but dont realize they are guilting you. , And BGM made the point also that except for what seems like an obvious dealbreaker to most people, they have a wonderful, amazing, great relationship. Each It took both of us a while to cut that back to what it is now, first it moved to one set of parents each weekend so wed alternate, and then down to every couple weeks. Long story short even though we saw each other almost every weekend for 4.5 straight years, not once did he agree to this. Say that you enjoy spending time with his parents but you really miss your city weekends, so youd prefer to stay home except for maybe once a month. They clearly have poor communication if she states her feelings and he minimizes and ignores them. I dont know how to handle a situation that hasnt happened yet. Pay careful attention to his reaction. I guess then that depends on the LWs definition of a routine of spending significant amounts of time at their house nearly every weekend. Like I said before, I get along great with them and dont mind visiting them, but I also need privacy and a chance for my boyfriend and me to have a separate life from them. So put aside the awks phone chat you might have to have with your Mum, and enjoy the fact that this year you can eat until you feel sick with your bae. lets_be_honest Ive put my head in the sand in relationships as well before. I thought the same thing. January 4, 2021, 3:15 am. Haha. LW is definitely being reasonable in not wanting to spend every weekend with her boyfriends family. For me to sit in the house miles away from my family because his family dont live over the road no more they moved may last year and he was up there alot by bus but now they have a car i never see him and i am not exagerating even when he is here he sits up in the bedroom and i dont see him unless he wants a cup of tea and to use the bathroom how ever when i go to bed and my son is asleep thats when we connect and have a good time chat cuddle but in the back of my mind i am worrying that there is more to him staying out all of the time and if its over i wud rather him just say so i can adjust to life with out him rather than live like this something has to change, Trust me girl im glad am not the only one that is going thro this i know exactly how u are feelin, Angelicque This is typically how this dynamic functions. January 20, 2012, 11:06 am. For the first two months we dated, hed go and see his mom for an hour or two during the weekend, because I lived in the same town as she did and as my parents did. When you talk to your boyfriend about your concerns be careful that it is not perceived as an ultimatum, just that you would like to discuss other options of things to do on the weekend. allathian So LW, if you dont like it, I think you should MOA. Lets see what to do with all our weekends, vacation and generally free time what to do with all our money oh, the abortion, should I get knocked up by the way, would you want or not want to know if I was cheating on you.. Oh, what else.. who is going to do the dishes, and who is taking out the garbage.. Am I forgetting anything? To me that is a bit thorough and ridiculous. silver_dragon_girl Anne has since finished her probation and has a 5-year-old son who my mother dotes on. Once that ebbs a little, I predict things are going to get problematic. I purposely do this so hell not do the same with me. Ditto to the making plans paragraph. Haha. June 18, 2014, 12:45 pm. This has been going on for 4 years and its not going to change on its own. Besides, the whole point of living in NYC is so you dont have to rely on Metro North to get int to the city on the weekends amirite!? lets_be_honest That was what I meant. June 18, 2014, 9:59 am, Haha, I think this is quite extreme. Your I agree with you AND Flake, RR.at the same time, if their biggest issue is spending too much time with his parents on the weekends I think theyre probably in pretty good shape. Your husband loves to drink it with his dad while discussing sports. I think at around this point in relationships, the traditional roles of pursuer and pursued tend to go away. The LW just needs to talk it over with the boyfriend and agree with what works for both of them. If the relatives of only one spouse are prioritized, the other spouse will be dissatisfied. Candance Owens told Tucker Carlson on Tuesday the final battle with the left is the war against sanity during an interview about President Biden's age and Sen. John Fetterman's mental issues. Those are two crucial things that need to be in place if youre going to spend your life with this man. Im glad you are independent but unless it is care duty his behaviour is odd to me, and Id find it hurtful were I you. You and your husband wanting to live in different placesis probably a usual cause of arguments in your marriage. I am actually not promoting anything. Theres no need for anyone to take offense if others would have an opinion that something that pertains to you is abnormal. My boyfriend and I have been living together for about 6 months, after dating for a year. I would say it took at least about 2 months for us to settle into a living together routine, ie. I know many families like this. January 20, 2012, 11:45 am. GatorGirl Well, nobody lives forever, and guess what happens when were all in our 40s-50s? Its one thing to have dinner with your family once a week. You mention what you used to do when your were single. Lets find out why he behaves like that and offer tips on what you should do. If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy@dearwendy.com. Who knows, he might even find a girlfriend whod be willing to move in with his parents, and then hed never have to make a choice about who to spend more time with. Bagge72 So make him choose. It would be a lot of some, but we like it. If he lived in town permanently and this was happening every night, I think its a different story but we are talking sporadic weekends over a 2 season period. Either that or another kind of quiet crisis or else the holidays . im guessing its not going to be such a big deal, he just had no idea because you didnt say anything! Well, then you are simply NOT a match. My parents live far too and it sucks that I cant drop in on them from time to time, that I have to plan a whole vacation just to see them and cram a lot into one tiny weekend. You have the option of talking to him about it-without that context (this is weird, grow up), and from the place where your needs are not being metaka Honey, it would mean a lot if instead of both Friday and Saturdays you are home, spending all day with your family, we set aside a block of one of those days for just us time. Gah what is that. Dont go this weekend. Not because hes wrong, or youre wrong, but because your lifestyles just dont fit together well. January 20, 2012, 9:28 am. muchachaenlaventana Theres nothing inherently wrong with wanting to spend a ton of time with your family. Oh yeah I forgot about that. I hate having family stay over at our house. muchachaenlaventana However, you could opt to take time off longer than a weekend to spend time with him. He told you hedoesnt want to spend Christmas with your family. I used to joke with Bassanio that Jews and Catholics had a lot in common: the parental guilt. lets_be_honest January 20, 2012, 9:38 am. Have you tried just not going? Tired of Sharing So Much of Him. Maybe something is up with his family? Friends of her own? And you are right, regardless of anything, if she has a problem with it, he should be able to find a compromise that makes everyone happy. if it works for you, thats all that matters. Although the LW said that the mom finds a reason to drop by for hours at a time if theyre at her place. Sources: Ive studied psychology and dysfunctional family dynamics for years. I remember when I first moved in with my now husband I was so determined to split all expenses down the middle, even though at the time I was getting ripped off by my boss of the time (hed pay most of the people that worked for him whenever he felt like it, which was hardly ever). June 18, 2014, 11:28 am. But dont punish him for having parents close by, ts nobodys fault. Drews father is in his 90s (!!) I think it gives both of us an opportunity to have some alone time. I think like Wendy said its perfectly fine to let him know you would prefer to have time in your own house on the weekends. That said, I think the LW should just talk to her boyfriend. But if throughout dating you looked for all those little signs and clues that led you to believe that you are on the same page, I do not see the need for an official information session, or why it is wrong to assume that things will just continue as they are. We have a great relationship and I dont want this issue to grow into such a large issue that I cant handle it anymore one day. She says but I cant seem to get my boyfriend to understand that I dont want to spend weekend nights at their place more often than maybe once a month. So, we dont have a failure to communicate, we have a failure to reach agreement on how they should spend their weekends. The BF is emotionally (and physically) unavailable and I dont know that it will change without some sort of drastic action from the LW. You SHOULD sit down and have a rational, democratic discussion about the BIG ISSUES before you move in together, if you havent already discussed them outright. Thatll probably shut them up. You accept him as he is or you leave. Once starting over was a better outlook then staying in the relationship, I or we got out. silver_dragon_girl The pursuer (usually the guy, but not always) realizes that he has gotten the person he wanted, and stops feeling the need to woo herie frequent well-thought-out dates, sweet romantic gestures in the middle of the day, unprompted soliloquizing on how much you mean to him, etc. I would totally be cool with buying a compound and having my family and Peters family live on it in harmony with us. I mean, I worked so hard to play for this place, might as well enjoy it on occasion. Wendy has said she works 2 weeks or so in the future, which means she likely got this letter about two weeks ago which was right after a bunch of holidays! First, they have to lead partners to interact with each other in a positive way. You say you cant get your boyfriend to understand that you dont want to spend every weekend with his parents. That is not the way that I would ever want it to be. YES! . Did he see them a lot over the holidays or not see them much at all? My husband calls his mom about once a week as well and his dad a few times a year. i mean yeah there are certain things that happen naturally but there are certain things you have to have a conversation about. He has no problem with his family coming to your place unannounced whenever they want and staying as long as they wish. 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